Yoga: perfect aid to weight reduction

I’m guessing that the most common New Year’s resolution is to lose weight. And yet most people don’t think of yoga as part of a weight reduction programme. I know from personal experience that yoga keeps me at a consistent weight, and that regular practice not only tonifies my hips, butt, waist and thighs (and keeps other areas fairly perky, for someone , ahem, let’s say ‘over 40!). So I was searching for statistics about how many calories yoga burns, and hey presto, look at this.

The Number of Calories burned in a hour of yoga compared to other activities

yoga burns calories

yoga burns more calories than dancing!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

source: www.dietandfitnesstoday.com/

These figures are for a woman of 163 lbs average and man of 190 lbs are the number of calories burned per hour.  An average yoga class, one that has some strong flow (yang) work in it burns upwards of 392 calories in an hour for women and 457+ for men! This means yoga burns more calories than modern dance, golf, and moderate walking. This is good news because not only does it mean yoga burns fat, it has many other health benefits too. So yoga can’t be compared to other forms of ‘exercise’ because it is much more than just exercise.

Yoga and Weight Loss

I guess we have all seen the ashtanga yoga addict – emaciated and skeleton-like in the search for body (or spirit) beautiful. This stick like image of a yoga practitioner is enough to put anyone off the practice. But there are many people who regularly practice yoga who are doing it to help with weight management, yet who have a healthier relationship with their bodies. Whilst Yoga can help us burn calories (proof above!) what it really works on is our attitude to food. It teaches us about nourishment. Between those who starve themselves for fasting or ridiculous diets, and those who gorge, yoga encourages in us a ‘middle way’.

Food as life essence

The refinement of awareness that yoga brings with it, encourages us to be more aware of our prana, our vital lifeforce. And food is the main way that we take in this life essence into our body. Our body is an important vessel for our self and mind, and the healthier the body the more likely we are to be healthy in mind and free of disease. So the quality of the prana that we ingest, through our intake of food, is vital for our health and wellbeing (and our spiritual progress). As we develop this refined awareness we naturally have a sense of what food is good for us, and what food our body needs.

Hunger versus Appetite

I think yoga teaches us the massive difference between hunger and appetite: kind of like needs and wants. Hunger is when we need food – and many of us in the West have probably not been truly hungry ever. And appetite is when we would like to eat, to satiate a craving or a rumbling of the stomach or through habit. Hunger is a natural demand of the body for energy, and appetite is what we have educated our senses to prefer. Appetite is chocolate, sugar, cakes, lots of meat etc. Hunger is simple, natural, plain food: perhaps porridge and sprouts etc (not together though … eeeuuuww!).

Hunger is taking the time to enjoy every mouthful. We learn to appreciate food, truly. The atoms of the matter of food are masticated by the mouth, very slowly releasing all the taste, energy and atoms from the food so that slowly that quality of energy is absorbed into our cells. This liberated energy, through slow eating, chewing every bit, gives vital energy to our very cells. So when you chew for a long time, let the food almost melt away in your mouth because you have masticated for so long that you don’t even need to try to swallow: that is really eating. Massage and caress your food with your mouth in a sensual dance.

Meat or not?

Contrary to popular belief, Yoga does not say ‘thou mustn’t eat meat’.  You can eat what you like. This is so true, because you find that, increasingly, what you ‘like’ is what is good and healthy for you anyway (certainly once you have purged yourself of your excessive appetites for chocolate etc!). But most people who practice yoga regularly come to find that meat is not his or her ‘proper’ diet, that humans just weren’t designed to eat a lot of meat (it was always such a scarcity). Yet forced restraint (I will not eat meat) does no good.

In general, what you also notice is that you eat less. This is mainly because yoga practice makes us the most energy efficient engine there is out there (better than a Toyota Prius!!). We are able to get the maximum nourishment from the minimum intake of food. So our plate size gets smaller, our stomach shrinks back to its normal size and we are now (through refined awareness) able to feel those pressure receptors in our stomach that are telling us that our stomach is full. And that is all we need. We eat what we need.

Here are a few top tips for what and how to eat to maintain healthy weight through yoga:

Top Tips for Yogic Weight Loss

  1. Eat a wide variety of things: yoga is the middle way, everything in moderation
  2. Follow your instinct: your body inherently knows what it needs (and this is unique to your ‘type’)
  3. Avoid ‘rich’ food (you will increasingly know what they are!)
  4. Don’t eat too much fat
  5. Don’t eat too much meat
  6. Tend toward simple, plain food
  7. Beware of the frying pan
  8. Get slow: masticate (chew) your food thoroughly and slowly until there is no taste left and it melts away in your mouth

I hope that has been of help for those of you interested in weight management, or with a New Years Resolution?  Now what’s for tea ……

 

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It’s all about energy management

 

What is our most precious commodity? What is it that we value above all else and what gives us access to success, health and wellbeing in life? It’s all about energy. Energy management is more important than time management.  How we nurture and manage our precious energy is not only important in quality of our health and vitality now, but it will ensure that as we grow older we will do so with vigour and vitality.

The source of all life

Whether it is yoga, aikido, martial arts, acupuncture, all these eastern philosophies recognise the human energy system. this energy – also known as Chi or prana – is our vital essence, our lifeforce: the source of all life. In a sense in have this subtle energy zinging throughout our bodies (and it is more electrical than anything else) we have the universe within us – for this is the energy that gave birth to the universe, universal energy). Without prana there is no life, prana can be felt in the body as different degrees of vibrations, warmth, power, pulsation, strength. We deplete this lifeforce when we get ill, through stress and tension (holding tension in the body creates blockages that prevent the free flow of this ‘subtle energy’) and through poor diet and lifestyle.

Disturbance of mind

Prana and the pranic body is the link between the physical body and the mind – hence any disturbance in the mind will affect our lifeforce and also any physical ailment in the body will deplete our lifeforce. If we can learn techniques to manage our subtle energy we will remain strong and balanced (in mind and body) and be able to ward off any mental or physical illness and increase our inner power and strength.

Given that our brain is 2% of our body mass and yet consumes 20% or more of our calorific intake (your brain eats a kit kat and 2 packets of crisps a day!), it isn’t hard to see how worry and anxiety drains prana.  A busy, worrying mind uses up loads of energy and this totally depletes our subtle energy.  If we think of this pranic energy as a bank account – we were born with a certain balance and it is our responsibility to build on this energy throughout our lives so that we grow more vital as we age.

Mental tension and disturbance, through worrying and anxiety, uses up a lot of this energy and ultimately leads to illness and disease. In virtually all the Eastern philoshophies all illness and disease is a result of disturbance, blockage and stagnation of this vital energy (and this explains why my friend Howard has cured himself of the apparently ‘irreversible’ disease of Parkinsons).

What and where is prana?

Prana is the subtle energy that runs through the energy ‘meridians’ or channels of the body – the nadis. This electrical energy is intimately linked to the nervous system and the balance of sympathetic and parasympathetic branches of the nervous system. Hence mental and emotional balance (balance of these two branches) nurtures and strengthens prana. Whilst prana is not breath: breath is the biggest tool we have to manipulate prana. Hence the huge importance of breath and breathing exercises (pranayama) in yoga – these practices build our energy and vitality.

Prana exists in 5 different sections which all move constantly and in different directions (the vayus). A healthy section of prana feels tingly, full of life, vital and pulsating. Numbness, heaviness, cold, all indicate that prana is stagnant or blocked.  Blockage and stagnation destory our prana – and this gives us some sense of the importance of asana in yoga – asanas remove all blockages (eventually), whether mental, emotional or physical so that our vital lifeforce can flow freely and keep us health and vital.

Prana and Consciousness

Prana is also linked to levels of consciousness. Most religions, faiths and philosophies agree that the purpose of human life is to expand our level of consciousness and to realise our true potential of self. Higher levels of prana help to elevate us to higher levels of consciousness and likewise (in my experience anyway) higher levels of consciousness help us to experiece the higher levels of prana. Fleeting experiences of higher these higher levels: where consciousness becomes consumed in shimmering ethereal particles of ‘light’ moving in all directions simultaneously where the physical material body has dissolved and we, our consciousness, has no boundary, is limitless.

How can we nurture prana?

We can learn how to generate prana, nurture it, build up a huge store of it. But first we must learn to become aware of it – this requires a refinement of awareness (so come along to my yoga classes!).  Then there are three main ways of generating prana:

  1. Choose your environment carefully – it is said that living high on a mountain exposes us to more pure prana. We breathe in prana – taking the univeral lifeforce into our own body. So the quality of the air we breathe, and more importantly the level of prana in that air is important. Hence why mental illness and depression is higher in inner cities.
  2. Ingest the highest quality fuel – if we think of our bodies as a prana energy generation station, we ingest the fuel for the generation of our prana in 3 ways: what we breathe, what we eat and what we drink. So it is important to consider the quality of the prana in what we eat or drink. Natural foods that are closer to the source and have been through fewer refinements or processing have inherently higher levels of prana. Hence fresh vegetables, fruit and a more natural diet. Remember, our ancient ancestors were not meat eaters – but meat was a rare treat, certainly not an everyday event.
  3. And finally, and this is key, we need the proper rest and relaxation. Deep restorative rest and practices that reduce the domination of the sympathetic nervous system and restore vagal tone are essential. And this is not just about lying down and ‘doing relaxation’. but about learning a way of living that is expansive and spacious as we go about our everyday existence.

For more information check out the Embodied living website or attend one of our courses or classes.

 

 

 

 

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Being versus doing

I sat in Costa Coffee today, something I do as regularly as possible (in some tea or coffee shop). I thought briefly, about why I am drawn to do this: sit in coffee shops, thinking and sitting. It is part of what I call the broad ‘margin’ that I like in my life. And I think it is all about ‘being’.

To elaborate; i watched people today. Coming and going, sitting and queueing. And as I watched them I thought about the gunas (see yesterday’s post) and started to notice which guna was predominant in each person. In the West certainly, we have a culture that encourages, rewards, and shapes us for doing. In my one to one work whether yoga or psychotherapy, I see this. People often have a posture that mirrors a forward moving. go getting, achieving culture: sway back, knees hyperextended, a tense lateral myofascial line that throws the pelvis out of alignment and head hanging forward off the neck.

Existing or Being?

In therapy, or yoga, people often simply don’t know how to ‘just be’. And their reactions to feeling stressed or overwhelmed is to do more, to keep themselves busy. Almost like if they stopped they wouldn’t exist any more. Of course when they have come to therapy, their body and/or their mind have already begun to ‘break down’ in some way (of course breakdown only leads to breakthrough!). So as I noticed the older lady behind me, who’s impatience I could feel even before she began trying to push in front of me. Or the stressed looks on shoppers faces busily scanning catalogues, or the harassed mum who quickly gulped down her drink coffee and was out before I had taken a bite of cake. I could see ‘doing’ was written on the somatic structure of peoples’ faces, posture, body.

There were perhaps about 2 people who seemed to be ‘being’. A contented looking young guy with a bright, clear face, sitting back in his chair smiling at the lady with him. Their non hurried demeanour draw my attention, their energy drew me in.

And I wondered, ‘why am i sitting here in Costa, when i could be home doing things?’ And realised that margin/space is so important to me – I can just ‘be’ in that space. And I realised that I have more margin and earn less money now (than ever before) because of this. But for me this margin IS life, and health and happiness. I have enough. And, best of all, I have space to ‘be’.

Of the gunas (see below post) Sattvic is light, space, lucidity, harmony. You can’t buy it or earn it by doing more or trying harder. You have to learn to be and let go of some doing and having. Perhaps this is the hardest lesson of all.

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Coherent Breathing

 

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The breath is the link between the body and mind. Through the breath you can get a window onto the autonomic nervous system (that which we are usually told is beyond our conscious control) and the unconscious mind. There is a way to breathe – known as coherent breathing – where we can become more of ourself, synchronise heart rate and even blood flow, with respiration. This process happens when we are breathing slowly and deeply – ie at a rate of 5 breaths/minute. The average person breaths at 15  breaths/min (some are at 30 or more!!). This rate of 5 breaths/min brings about emotional and physiological coherence.

When we don’t breathe coherently, and for many of us unproductive breathing is a lifetime habit, the sympathetic nervous system becomes dominant (we’re in the realm of fearing, fleeing or fighting). And the parasympathetic nervous system, the relaxation responsive system that we all have inherent access to, becomes dysfunctional and is no longer able to counteract the stressed nervous system and rescue us from a pretty negative and unpleasant way of being in the world.

The Diaphragm

Coherent breathing involves the diaphragm – the primary muscle of respiration. The diaphragm is a strong sheet of muscle that sits in the torso separating the abdominal organs from the thoracic cage. It is a very important organ. It can move in a range of 10 cm. Yet many people don’t use it – its range may be 1 cm or less. When the diaphragm is used to at least 60% of its capacity in breathing it works on the enteric nervous system (the ENS, the gut) to entrain this body-brain (the ENS has 100,000 neurons, as much as the spinal column!!). It also massages deeply into the gut to keep the myofascial connective structure free of blockages and the body fluids healthy.

Embrace the Passive

Whilst exhalation is an active process, the exhalation is passive, simply a relaxation (letting go) of the diaphragm. Coherent breathing requires that we let go of the diaphragm, relax it deeply, allow its range of movement to increase (for this is all to do with the exhalation). But letting go is hard to do!  We need to learn to relax the diaphragm, so that it relaxes fully upwards and activates a deep relaxation response as we breathe out (the heart rate slows down too). This alone takes us into deeper relaxation, at a cellular level, across many systems of our body and counteracts the effects of stress on our lives.

Effect on the Heart
The diaphragm is connected to the heart via the central tendon and connective tissue. Its action massages the heart – the other body-brain. As much as 65% of heart cells are neural cells, identical to those found in the brain, your heart has thoughts and a ‘mind’! In addition, the heart is a powerful EMF energy generator (the electromagnetic energy that a coherent heart kicks out can be measured up to 15 feet outside of the body!!), and can affect the energy of brainwaves (a process called entrainment) and also of other people.

In addition, the diaphragm is connected to the vagus nerve, part of the PNS, and its action serves to increase the functionality of the PNS, when we breathe diaphragmatically we engage the parasympathetic nervous system.

Finally, through coherent breathing we can entrain the ENS (the gut), the heart into coherence (high HRV), and the brainwaves into alpha or even theta.  This is the secret to deep relaxation and becoming ‘more’ of ourselves.

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Yoga as psychotherapy

I am on an intensive training course this week, part of my journey to become a fully fledged psychotherapist. I’ve already got over 600 hours face to face yoga therapytraining, and am doing another 330 in 2011/12.  And today someone asked me what my main model of therapy is. I scratched my head, unable to put into words a nice, neat little model. Everything that I do is guided by the client’s needs and there is no one model. But then I thought again: what guides everything I do, that which presides over my entire framework is yoga.

Yoga, especially when combined with psychotherapy, helps you develop a deeper connection to yourself and reconnect body and mind to release deep emotional and physical tensions. By combining Western talk psychotherapy (nlp psychotherapy, CBT therapy, self relations therapy) with Eastern tools of yoga, yoga therapy uses the wisdom of the body to heal the mind and the power of the mind to heal the body.

But we have to use a framework, a model to understand where the client is now and where he or she wants to be.

Framework – assessment

This may include an assessment of the gunas, the basic ‘texture’ of their personality, to determine whether someone is predominantly sattvi, rajasic or tamasic:

  • Sattva (originally “being, existence, entity”) has been translated to mean balance, order, or purity. Indologist Georg Feuerstein translates sattva as “lucidity”.
  • Rajas (originally “atmosphere, air, firmament”) is also translated to mean change, movement or dynamism.
  • Tamas (originally “darkness”, “obscurity”) has been translated to mean “too inactive” or “inertia”, negative, lethargic, dull, or slow. Usually it is associated with darkness, delusion, or ignorance.

It will also include an intuitive assessment of the kleshas : which are the deep ‘afflictions’  (mental disturbances) that are driving a particular behaviour and causing this person’s suffering?

  • AVIDYA, which means ignorance. Specifically, it means not seeing the truth (a-vidya). It is ignorance of the reality that transcends individual lifetimes and the physical universe. the other kleshas are related to avidya.
  • Asmita (I-am-ness) is the identification of ourselves with our ego. We create a false self-image of ourselves that we believe is us, but it is actually not us (not our real self). This self-image can contain both external (I am poor) and internal (I am a bad person) false limiting beliefs about ourselves. We become trapped within these limiting beliefs.
  • Raga (attachment) is the attraction for things that bring pleasure or satisfaction to oneself. Our desire for pleasurable experiences creates mindless actions and blind sighted vision. When we cannot obtain what we desire, we suffer. When we do obtain what we desire, our feelings of pleasure soon fade and we begin our search for pleasure again, becoming trapped in a endless cycle.
  • Dvesha (repulsion) is the opposite of raga, is the the running away from unpleasant experiences (people, things), compulsive avoidance of suffering. If we cannot avoid the things we dislike, we suffer. Even thinking about unpleasant experiences produces suffering.
  • Abhinivesha (will to live) is the deepest and most universal klesha, the most difficult to overcome, and remaining with us until our deaths. We know that one day we will indeed die, yet our fear of death is a deeply buried in our unconsciousness.

Where are we blocked?

I also consider what is going on energetically with someone. Where are we blocked? what are we neglecting or hiding from deep within ourselves? The chakras often hold the clue to this – a knot in the heart, or stomach. Someone can only connect to a neglected part of self (a buried trauma or emotion) if they have a strong enough ‘competent self’ to hold that neglected part. So chakra work can include strengthening of the inner self and building a connection to inner power. Then the work can begin on the darkness within – because in that darkness lies our real power. But it takes courage to connect to it and welcome it as part of ourself.

Yoga Therapy

Overtly a yoga therapy session consists of a tailored yoga programme, designed to work therapeutically to restore your health, combined with psychotherapy (and our talking therapy has a very ‘somatic’ focus).

Each one to one session is a workout for the body and the mind that translates to benefits that clear out trauma and mental tension and make you a more positive person. Yoga psychotherapy uniquely combines the power of the mind with the wisdom of the body. Many of the psychosomatic symptoms of common illness and disease are found in the body, but it is in these very symptoms that the power to heal body and mind lies.

That is why we (usually) start with the body in yoga therapy. Using the body we can access the autonomic nervous system and rebalance the ‘system’. Then we use talk therapy to tap into the power of the mind (most the unconscious mind!).

A typical session involves working one to one on the mat with the yoga therapist, involving breath work (breath retraining), and doing a series of specially designed, assisted, restorative postures and talk therapy and self hypnosis techniques.

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Toothbrush for the soul: A simple home practice

We live in a world that will not fail to stress us out! It is designed to wind us up: every day we are bombarded by thousands of visual-auditory stimulii from the advertisers, TV soaps, the news etc. There is so much to stimulate our senses and activate the kleshas; rajas of pleasure and desire or the dvesa of obsessively avoiding suffering (and causing ourselves more suffering, ironically!).

All this winds up our nervous system: the sympathetic fear-fight-flight branch is constantly over activated, and, on its own, cannot really wind down. We are, more than not, in ‘left brain’ mode of narrow focus, over thinking, planning our next thing to do or get or achieve. Our heart rate goes us, our blood pressure increases, we can’t sleep well, we feel ‘wired’ all the time. Our society encourages, rewards and promotes this way of being; it is now deeply engrained in our culture. That is why there is so many mental health problems. Our world is full of anxiety, fear, minds are racing, we are competitive and envious.

Symptoms

These are symptoms of not having a way to engage the other, vaster part of us: our right brain, our parasympathetic nervous system. These symptoms in us can be seen as a positive ‘calling’ to wake up to ourselves. Yes really!! A communication from our deeper self that something needs to change. We are not happy living like this, we have little ‘santosha’ or contentment. Santosha can be thought of as ‘not requiring more than you have to achieve contentment. It may be seen as renunciation of the need to acquire, and thereby elimination of constantly ‘wanting’ something or someone outside of ourself’.

But to get to Santosha we need to use the other, vaster part of ourself; we need a way of a) connecting to it and b) staying in connection so that our day to day experience of life, of ourselves is very different.

Life is complex. Simple is powerful!

All you need is a simple daily practice to unwind, open yourself to yourself and be the person you would like to be surrounded by. Even 10 mins daily is better than 90mins once a week and if you can find half an hour each day? Well, it is the best insurance policy you will ever take out; a toothbrush for the soul.

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Embodied Living’s Sue Tupling talks to Stuart George of BBC Radio Stoke

 

Stuart George runs a wonderful inquiring show on BBC Radio Stoke, mid morning.
He interviewed Embodied Living’s Sue Tupling about the human need for connection
and how we can get more of it. (5 mins or so)

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Yoga for Menstrual Health and a Healthy Cycle

Watch the short video clip here (focused on fibroids):

Most women, like me, must have reacted in dread when they were first told about the monthly menstrual cycle that they must endure for 40 years or so of their lives. Who could react positively to such news at such a young age, especially when that monthly change is accompanies by nasty side effects such as pain, mood swings, and other discomforts. Once girls realise the upside of this imposition, ie that we are the creators and carriers of life and our bodies (not men’s) have the possibility of the miracle of birth, they perhaps come to terms with this ‘wound’ and see the beauty of its cycle of birth and renewal as a symbol of their own female power. This positive attitude to our miraculous cycle goes a long way to heal the monthly process.

I think that our attitude to our menstrual cycle has a lot to do with the level of discomfort we experience. Many women suffer problems such as uterine fibroids, benign (non-cancerous) tumorsthat originates from the smooth muscle layer and the accompanying connective tissue of the uterus. These cause swelling, pain, heavy periods etc and can lead to infertility. Yoga can be of great help to relieve the symptoms and even to help reduce the size of fibroids.

But our monthly period is an important process of waste elimination and renewal. I have realised this over the years, and appreciate this almost cathartic feeling of renewal that it gives me. However, if we don’t look after ourselves the body struggles to elimate ‘waste’ effectively. Poor diet, too much caffeine, alcohol, sugar, or stress and overwork (or over play!), a generally unhealthy lifestyle and negative emotions/mental tensions are all mirrored in our monthly renewal process. The yoga term for the waste and toxins accrued by our bodies, and especially when we abuse them, is ‘ama’. If we abuse ourselves our body has more ama to expurge each month (as well as the usual hormonal, and tissue waste), so our body (liver, kidneys, lymph, digestive etc) struggles to deal with it. This is when we suffer more with PMS and the other symptoms of dysfunctional menstrual cycle.

We therefore need to look after ourselves, and appreciate the monthly reminder of this by having a positive mental attitude to our body and menstrual cycle. In addition, the above yoga exercises help to open the pelvic area, release blockages and let go of tension and accumulation. It can help with the process of expurging ama (waste).

The full 45 minute DVD sequence can be purchases via paypal:

Yoga for Menstrual Health & Fibroids DVD- 45 min, a sequence to relax the pelvic floor and release tension in the pelvic area, releasing tension and toxins and increasing health energy flowCost: £5.50 inc P&P

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what is wellbeing?

It is widely known that the Government is looking into a measure beyond GDP, of progress outside of economics: wellbeing. The recent report on the debate shows considerable public support for this measure. BBC Radio Stoke recently focused on the issue of wellbeing and asked me to comment. This blog post elaborates on what I didn’t have time to mention in those brief 5 mins of airtime!

A rounded definition of wellbeing is physical, social and emotional health. Many of us are aware of the issue of physical health, of which regular exercise plays a part. But relaxation is equally important. Physical health might be measured by heart rate , blood pressure etc, but a better measure is HRV (heart rate variability). HRV provides a window into the autonomic nervous system and its state of balance or imbalance. The balance between active and inactive, dynamic and relaxed: the ultimate aim of physical health is this. Quick recovery back to the resting heart beat. High HRV gives us this, it is a buffer against stress too, a measure of physical and emotional resilience.

Social health is important. Not least because of the well proven links between good relationships and wellbeing. Those in marriages, albeit happy ones (as there are many who’s unhappy marriages make life harder), are likely to be healther, live longer and be happier. Strong social networks can also provide this – they are important to our wellbeing. So make sure you put time aside for your family and friends!

Social health also includes financial security and job satisfaction. Perhaps explaining why stress levels (and depression and anxiety) have hit record levels lately, during the recessionary times. At these times a strong social network is important.

Good Emotional Health

Emotional health is often the neglected side of wellbeing. But I argue the most crucial. If you are free of mental problems you are more likely to be happy and content, therefore more likely to be in a happy relationship and have more close friends. And good emotional health goes hand in hand with achievement, satisfaction, and even better financial health.

I define good emotional health as freedom from mental problems. Everyone has mental problems of some sort, if you don’t you are enlightened already! Mental problems create tension in our minds and in our body. Freedom from mental problems means that our bodies and minds are free of tension; the nervous system is in balance and there is less dis-ease (most of our diseases are a result of mental problems). When the mind is free of tension, we are more able to relax. The result is a state of happiness, self acceptance, optimism, hope and tolerance.

Clearly there is not enough of this around. One in four people are diagnosed with depression and anti depressants are being prescribed by GPs at record levels. So what can we do to improve our emotional wellbeing?

Most people start with the wrong thing, they look to external things to make them happy. But there is extensive evidence that increasing levels of wealth do not correlate with increasing levels of happiness. We need enough money to live but beyond that, happiness actually plateaus. And whilst I find it important to be physically healthy, as this prevents disease and helps to slow the ageing process. But physical health does not correlate with happiness as directly as you would expect.

How to Be Happy?

So how can we be happier? Emotional health is important because it increases optimism, hope, and promotes a sense of purpose and increases tolerance, creativity, productivity and compassion. It increases our joy in life, boosts our resilience and reduces our chance of suffering , stress and disease.

Here are a few points for starter – 5 top Tips for Happiness:

  1. Let go – let go of what life should be like, ought to be like or must be like. Learn to accept yourself, others and circumstances for what they are. And let go of trying to change the things you can’t.
  2. Learn to appreciate yourself. Look for your strengths. Write a list of the 10 things that you are passionate about, that you ‘lose’ yourself in.
  3. Practice gratitude. Notice, everyday, at least 5 things that you can appreciate about yourself and your life.
  4. Plan for fun. What gives you joy, pleasure, what is fun for you? Just make sure you do more of it.
  5. Time is money? but which would you choose at the crunch – for me it’s time every time. Take a careful look at how  you spend your time, and think about how you can spend it more wisely. What can you cut out? What do you need to do less of? More of? How good are you at just saying plain ‘No’. The most precious gift you can give someone is your undivided time and attention. Who are you going to give the gift of time to today?

Perhaps you can share your own ‘happiness tips’ here? What makes you happier? What do you think should be on this list?

Hear my recent interview on BBC Radio Stoke with Stuart Gordon about wellbeing: http://embodiedliving.libsyn.com/sue-tupling-interview-on-bbc-radio-stoke-what-is-wellbeing-

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Interview on BBC Radio Stoke

 

in a short interview on Monday 21st July 2011, Stuart George of BBC Radio Stoke interviews Sue Tupling of Embodied Living about wellbeing. This was in response to the Government’s wellbeing report on the debate – which was published on Monday.

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